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Weeks 36 to 2 weeks old

Wow, where have the last 8 weeks gone?

We got to 36 weeks and felt that baby was imminent but every tummy murmur and every thigh quiver proved to be nothing more than Lena's natural body reaction. Meanwhile, people all around us were having babies ahead of their due date.

The 24 August, our due date was seemingly hanging around our necks with the weight of an anvil. Lena was becoming uncomfortable and I was trying to be as supportive as possible to little or no avail.

We completed our NCT classes and now have four other couples we call friends. We've been out for dinner with them on a few occasions and now the ladies meet weekly. It's great. One by one they started delivering and we went from being third in line to deliver to almost being last.

On 26 August we went in for a consultant appointment, two days post our due date. I don't know why but I had a feeling that something was going to happen. We spoke to the Registrar and she could see that Lena was finding it tou…

Week 33 to 35 (Pineapple to honeydew)

Things are getting really close now. Mum is struggling with her back and I've had to start taking on more around the house. It helps now that we've started ante-natal classes and have been able to chat to some other pregnant couples.

We're very lucky in that our NCT group are great. We've met four really nice couples and we all seem to get on well. We went out for our first meal last week and have planned another for next week. It's great to be able to talk to people in the same situation.

In fact the way our NCT coordinator talks about the birth and the first few months, it almost feels like we're all a unit preparing to go into battle. There are so many different cries, emotions, signs we have to get to know about how baby's feeling plus there're all these warnings about sleep deprivation, strange occurrences at birth, cone heads, something called 'The Show',.... WTF!

We're also starting to get into baby shower season, that's somethin…

Week 31 to 32 (weight of a coconut and size the length of a kale)

Things have started arriving. We already had the nappies, 8 months supply of these new naturally harmonious organic, decaf, soy, Toyota Prius esque nappies that decompose and turn instantly into pretty little flowers. That's what I heard anyway when they were described to me but in essence they just take less time to decompose than disposables and you can wash the outside. They're called gNappies.

We also got the pram, pushchair, wardrobe, cot and change table. Lena can see exciting stuff that makes our journey to being parents that step closer. I can see instruction manuals and screws left on the nursery floor that really do have a home, we just don't know where. I am looking forward to moving home and making the nursery though but I know we're still 5 weeks from starting.

Lots to think of before then. Munchkin is exploring every inch of mum's tummy and sometimes appears to be engaging in a solo boot camp routine as elbows, feet, a head and a bottom appear at var…

Week 29 and 30 (Butternut squash to large cabbage)

Munchkin has been getting more and more active recently. He really responds to the stories and playing hide and seek.

It's an amazing experience being able to interact with this little person inside mum's tummy. I've also become an expert in all things baby because I read one book about Fatherhood, yes one, I fear I'm annoying people, particularly Lena.

So my latest story was Munchkin goes to town. Here it is below:

Munchkin goes to town Today munchkin went to town
He couldn't see the town
He couldn't feel where he was going
But he could hear it
From inside mummy's tummy
Where everything was safe and warm
In town he heard some cars
Munchkin couldn't see the cars
He couldn't feel the cars
But he could hear the cars
and the sound they made went
Brrrm brrrm brrrm
In town daddy opened the door to a shop
Munchkin couldn't see the door
He couldn't feel the door
But he could hear the door
And the sound it made went
Creak creak creak
In town the market was busy
Mu…

Week 26 to 28 (Cauliflower to Aubergine)

Week 26 and time is really flying. 
I started reading a book about being a dad written from the perspective of a father. It was really eye opening. Its called 'The Expectant Dad's Handbook' by Dean Beaumont who started http://www.daddynatal.co.uk/ the first antenatal classes for dads. A brilliant idea.
I finished the book in about a week and was really intrigued by how much of an influence we can have as dads in the birth of our child.
I found out that now is the time to start bonding with my son. He can hear my voice and reacts to it. Also, if I read a story to him over and over using our nickname for him (munchkin), that story and my voice will have a calming effect on the little guy when he sees the world.
So, I felt inspired to write my own stories and the first one below is called Munchkin goes to the Farm:
Today munchkin went to the farm.  He couldn't see the farm
He couldn't feel the farm
But he could hear the farm
From inside mummy's tummy
And everything is safe

A…

Week 23 to 25 (papaya to aubergine)

The last couple of weeks, little munchkin has been a lot more active. The other night I pressed my finger into Lena's tummy and the baby gave me a little kick back to let me know he was there.

Those episodes are getting more frequent and you can now actually see the baby kicks whereas before it was just by touch. It makes it all so much more real and brings it home to me that soon, my responsibilities change yet again.

I keep thinking about small insignificant little things like what our new routine will be in the mornings and evenings. Taking the baby and the dogs out for a walk at dusk. I also thought about the first time I take my son out to give mum a break and how I'll cope. It's nerve wracking stuff but something you've just got to get on with and not overthink - overthinking being a particular delight of mine!

We've also been discussing the room decor. I fully realise my role in this will be agreer and sounding board... There will be something Everton in th…

Week 20 to 22 (cantaloupe to banana to papaya)

The last couple of weeks have seen us in prep mode. We've focused on buying a house so we have a first home for the little one when he arrives as well as buying a pram, highchair, moses basket, cot, changing table and wardrobe.

We went to a baby show the other week and I was amazed at how many prams there were each with their own relative merits and downsides. It became clear pretty quickly that a pram is quite a personal choice. It has to feel right, to fold right. It was almost as complex buying a pram as it was finding a house we liked.

We also had our 20 week scan in this period of time and that was a bit of an intense experience. It's full on and in depth but all was good even if Junior was doing his best at playing hide and seek..

Now we're beyond the half way point, things seem to be moving much more quickly and there's been a significant increase in the amount of people telling us how much our life will change... I'm sure it will, but a consistent life is …

Weeks 18 to 20 (sweet potato to mango to cantaloupe)

Wow so little munchkin is getting more and more active. It's an amazing feeling to sense the little bumps and murmurs. He's particularly mobile after eating, hopefully he doesn't get the Sommer belly!

We found out the gender in a gender scan the other week. It was a bit more nerve-wracking than I thought. I guess a lot of men hope for a baby boy and mum's hope for girls although I'm sure there are differences. I really wanted a boy. Thinking about it, I want to be able to introduce him to the sports I loved playing when I was young. Maybe there's a part of me that is looking to live through my son vicariously.

I find myself lost in thought about all the things we can do together. The song Let it go from Frozen came on the other day and I realised I'd never seen it so I thought about how great it would be to watch that with my son for the first time. Other things, random everyday things will literally stop me in my tracks and move my thoughts onto how this …

Weeks 14 to 17 (size has gone from lemon to orange to avocado to onion)

It's been a few weeks since my last post and a lot has changed in that time. It's not just the size of the little one that's changed but I can feel myself changing too. I've been thinking about ways that I can help our child grow up to be the best of themselves but sometimes you can over think these things.

I want to impart whatever knowledge I have and I can't wait to get started but maybe I'm moving to quickly, after all it's just a mere flutter in my wife's tummy right now.

I'm talking to munchkin now, that's my name for him/her, we get these emails from NHS and NCT advising us of things to do as each week goes by. A couple of weeks ago one of these emails suggested to talk to wifey's belly. At first it felt a little strange but now it feels like a connection and being the dad, there's only a few of those opportunities to connect during a pregnancy. It's obviously very different for a mum who is there every step of the way.

Also …

Week 13 to 14 (size lemon)

Edging into another week and my head is pulled in many different directions wondering how the dogs are going to react to a new edition to the family and considering if there is something we need to be doing that we just don't know.

You tend to get lots of advice from people when they find out you're going to be a dad. It gets a little tricky to figure out what to focus on and what isn't important.

The other crazy thing, and this I'm sure will only be me, is that I keep getting this strange thought process. Whenever I see an ambulance or flowers on a road to suggest an accident, I get this weird idea that someone may have died to make space on earth for a new life. It's completely bizarre but I can't help it. I always over think situations and have a very curious mind trying to figure out the World and why things happen. I feel there has to be a reason for everything. Maybe I'm a wannabee scientist!

Back to reality, today we went to Toys R Us to check out p…

Becoming a dad - Weeks 12 to 13 (size Peach)

Weeks 12 to 13

It's been a hectic lead up to this point but finally, this week we found out we were definitely pregnant. It's an amazing feeling and one that we thought may not happen. I wanted to document the run in to becoming a dad for the first time. I hope I manage to keep it up in this blog.
Since we found out I find myself taking stock during quiet moments and steadily coming to terms with the reality that we about to realise a significant milestone in our lives.
It's an odd feeling because it doesn't quite feel real but yet I'm already planning ahead to when the moment arrives and I can hold baby in my arms. It's difficult to predict how that will feel and I'm trying not to be too methodical about the whole process. We should be enjoying this lead up. That's important.
It's exciting to plan ahead and today we went into London to look at baby things. It's only when you enter a shop like Mothercare for the first time where you're not …